One is frantic. One is relaxed. Together we are frantically relaxed. Follow us as we share life from two very different minds.
Friday, January 2, 2015
Do you a have plan to succeed for 2015?
Saturday, November 2, 2013
Rewarded with mud
There have been a few of those times in our home, but today that reward came as Mr. Kiefer finished the Tough Mudder. He used to eat ice cream while I worked out and vowed he would never be caught running, but a little change got a hold of him and brought forth some BIG results. It started as outward motivation from me, but the journey carried until he is now self motivated and many days seems to be carrying me along!
There were days that the training got intense and emotions flared. It was painful at times, but watching as Mr. Kiefer completed every obstacle and enjoyed the experience made for a great reward. It stretches farther than the physical. The determination, goal orientation, and success has carried over to every area of life and that is a great reward.
Get moving today! There may be a great reward waiting.
Monday, October 28, 2013
It Has Been Crazy
Has anyone ever apologized to you for not getting back in touch or for being frazzled and followed it up with this statement "I'm sorry it has just been crazy!"
I'm sure you have heard it and a good majority of us have said it. I know I have, but what does it really mean.
Well, here are some of my best attempts in understanding the "it has been crazy" statement:
- Life is coming at me so fast I only have time to keep pace with the things that have to be done in order for my family and I to survive.
- My family, friends, and/or I am really crazy and have kept some good drama going lately.
- Life is really dishing out some harsh events to me. They really are more than I can bear alone, but I do not want to be a burden to others so I have kept to myself.
- I have totally over obligated myself and now I have to rush to keep up with everything which means that I do not have time to stop for relational development.
- This is really a time of particular focus in my life so I need to submerge myself here for a while, but it isn't going to last forever.
Monday, October 21, 2013
Captain Underpants
The new hero around the Kiefer house is Captain Underpants. He defends against villains such as Professor PoopyPants, the Wicked Wedgie Woman, and is always getting the two main characters, Harold and George, out of trouble. The books have toilet humor, silly graphics, crazy antics, and out of this world plots. Did you catch that? THE BOOKS! That is why I can celebrate Captain Underpants. My son, who I thought would never pick up a book for fun, can't put them down. He loves reading and his standardized tests at school showed it! Although great, his test scores aren't what makes me so happy about the reading. In a world so lost from imagination, we have constant visual entertainment. We put little value on finding rest in quite activities that help promote mental focus and increased attention spans. Although the constant rush of information, instantaneous communication, and fast graphics may help us to be more productive with tasks, I find that it slows us from creating authentic relationships and self discovery. Being the mother of a very focus deficit child and understanding the struggle video games, tablets, TV and other media can cause in the home, I appreciate the time my son spends reading not to mention the two days that he spent creating his own mini-book (you'll need to rotate the images). He illustrated and wrote it himself. His classmates received a copy and asked for his autograph saying that he would be famous. What a win!
Captain Underpants you are my hero!
And here is our real life Captain Underpants for Halloween. The bottoms are actually a chef's hat and yes he did put shorts under it!
Thursday, October 10, 2013
Embrace the Mess
Recently I have been working on some home projects and mess was inevitable. I embraced it because I knew progress was underway and there would be an end to the chaos. I learned a great lesson from this mess, you can read more about that here.
For now, I will share rare photos of my home ... smile and embrace the mess!
Thursday, October 3, 2013
The Dollar Tree Gets Sexy?
Of course this led my son to look. Then he burst out into an embarrassed laughter as he saw a women in a low cut push-up bra pictured on the front of this product simply named 'Pump it Up'. I too laughed because of the giggly little voice of my daughter finding humor in the fact that whatever this thing was it had an inflate and deflate button. On the inside however, my heart broke because yet another piece of innocence was gone. As we drove home, we talked about their thoughts. My daughter maturely stated that the product would not have been as inappropriate had it been in a store for ladies or had a different (more modest) picture on the box. My son still embarrassed didn't have much to offer except it was inappropriate and didn't make sense. As a mother, I listened but know there is still a conversation to be had. I want my children to know that a woman's breast serve the functional purpose of feeding her babies. I want my daughter to know her value is not found in her appearance. If she ever feels the need to enhance a body part to get a guy to notice her then he doesn't deserve her. I want my son to know that there is more to a lady than the outer appearance, and modest is beautiful regardless of what media displays. I want him to understand purity starts in the heart and mind and images of immodestly dressed ladies can damage that purity and set him on a dangerous path. Being that my children are young, these messages will be simplified, but they must be spoken because if not my kids will become shaped by the world's message of sex and body image which isn't a message that I am ok with.
Shante
Monday, September 30, 2013
This Week for the Family
Check out the events going on around Rock Hill and Fort Mill this week.
Lots of fun for the family. Just click on the links for more details!
Oct 1
The Super Hero is Down
Anyway, here is the point. When I realized that he was really sick, I panicked. I had a dirty kitchen, piles of laundry, several house projects to be complete, and I wanted to talk. How in the world would I get all this done? I depend on him so much to be there to calm my chaos. Seriously, it's like I was a damsel in distress and my super hero was taken prisoner. I realized I had to act so I did what any good wife would do. I bought tons of orange juice, gave him medicine, and put the children to work on the chores.
We survived the day, and I realized even more how much I depend on (+Chris Kiefer) Mr. Kiefer. He treats me like a princess. He runs our home with grace and love, and his actions prove that he is truly a selfless leader.
The Princess,
Shante
PS - I am now on a mission to discover exactly what it is I do for our family.
Thursday, September 19, 2013
A Strong Reflection
Today we stopped by the greenway to get some updated snapshots of the kids for our entry way table. After taking a few quick photos, my husband and son walked to look at the horses. I stayed behind to make sure I had the shots I wanted. When I walked to meet them, the image I saw completely took my breath away. Both guys were standing peacefully watching the horses. Their backs were to me and all I could think is "wow, what a strong reflection". I saw my little boy standing in the image of my husband. I saw him being mentored and loved. He was beginning to reflect the traits of my husband: steady, strong, loving, and relaxed. It put my mind at ease and filled my heart with joy.My husband loves our children not because his blood runs through them because it doesn't, but his love and character does. No one forces him to seek their best interest, to take time to spend with them every day, to show up for school functions, or even sacrifice his desires so they can have theirs. Yet, by God's grace, this man has chosen to be bound to these children and we are better for it. From his example, my daughter gets to witness firsthand what it looks like to be treated like a princess, and my son gets to see how to treat a lady and be steady and strong.
Yes, life has been broken, but the pieces were put in the hand of God and He is creating a masterpiece!
Shante
Friday, September 13, 2013
The Discussion
Monday, September 9, 2013
Free Things to Do in Charlotte This Week
Tuesday 9/10
11:00am: Grey Seal Puppets at Carolina Place
11:30am: Music Box Lunch Concert Series at Romare Bearden Park: Gabriel Bello
Wednesday 9/11
5:00pm: Party in the Park concert series at Romare Bearden Park: The Extraordinaires (Beach Variety)
5:00pm: Free admission at Mint Museums
Thursday 9/12
7:00pm: Whitewater River Jam: Bob Margolin
Friday 9/13
7:00pm: Pineville’s Summer Concert Series: Joystick (70′s and 80′s Pop/Rock)
7:00pm: Stonecrest Summer Concert Series: Leslie & Friends and Kevin Russell
7:00pm: Blakeney Summer Concert Series: Natty Boh
7:30pm: Stargazing and treats around the campfire at Reedy Creek Nature Center
Saturday 9/14
Free admission to all Discovery Place museums for educators and a guest
10:00am: Family Fun Day at Sports Junction in Harrisburg
11:00am: Kids’ craft at Lakeshore Learning: Make and Play Guitar
12:00pm: Musical petting zoo at ImaginOn
2:00pm: Sunset Jazz Festival
4:00pm: Art show at Urban Ministries Center
7:00pm: Stonecrest Summer Concert Series: Leslie & Friends and Kevin Russell
8:00pm: Outdoor movie at Kilgo
8:00pm: Summit’s Schoolhouse Rock & Run, 10K + fun run at Summit Coffee
Sunday 9/15
2:00pm: Geocaching at Reedy Creek Nature Center
Wednesday, September 4, 2013
Had a Bad Day!
So in case you had the illusion that it is all rainbows and unicorns in our life, we had a bad day. It's probably safe to say a string of bad days, but then there was the breaking point. It is always triggered by the last little thing. You know life stuff: opportunities not panning out as quickly as hoped, feeling as the vehicle of life is in reverse instead of drive, plans failed, family sickness and then the breaking point ... a stolen bike!
My son's bike was taken right from our front yard, less than 15 feet from my front door. Yes that did it! I was over the top. My insides sick and my head filled with many unpleasantries. I walked the neighborhood and fumed. Why take a child's bike, I wondered. More than a bike gone, it also meant a little more loss of innocence for that sweet boy who no longer had bike. I'll save you all the words and ideas that ran through my head but let's just say it was a mixture of "don't worry it will work out" and "I'd like to choke the little (insert unpleasant word) that would do this". This is on top of all the other less than fun things that had happened so of course those thoughts joined the party and the emotions were on. Surprisingly with the explosion happening on the inside, I didn't lose control ( thanks Clear Mood)!
With all the unsettledness, I decided to stay down stairs alone so not to subject any underserving soul with my attitude. A few minutes went by and down came my wonderful husband, Mr. Relaxed "What are you doing down here by yourself? You want to come to bed?"
My thoughts "No. I do not want to come to bed. I want to bust down every door in the neighborhood until I find my son's bike all the while screaming out my displeasure with this situation and all the other situations." Thankfully that didn't happen. Instead my hubby took me by the hand and sat with me until I was ready to ascend to the upper level of the house. Ahh...Hulk mode defused.
After I woke up the next day still no rainbows or unicorns or the return of my baby's bike, but there was a life that had to be lived to the fullest.
As promised frantic writing and relaxed editing :)
Shante
Tuesday, September 3, 2013
Change is Coming!
Monday, August 26, 2013
Be The Best
Just for example, one is most likely not going to own a farm in the country and live in the city and take the subway to work. Wow, that was elementary right! As simple as that was to uncover, it is what I have been doing (and maybe many others) for a while. This made me think maybe the question is not who do I (or you) want to be. Maybe the better question is who am I (who are you)? Each of us were created uniquely with different likes, dislikes, strengths, and struggles. What ignites passion and brings peace? Where is that sweet spot where strengths and enjoyment collide? Do we know? If not, I highly recommend hanging out with yourself for a while and journaling your experiences. Be honest about the things you did really well and the things you bombed. Think about the projects, conversations, or tasks that brought you the most joy and see if there is a common factor linking them. Learn to know yourself and accept yourself. Then ask yourself “what version of who I am do I want to be.” For me the answer is simple. I want to be the BEST version of me possible. What does that completely look like? I have no clue. I only know that it means that I grow daily, do an extra rep, discover a new fact, do more of what I love and stop worrying about someone else’s version of awesome. - A size negative 2, a power lifter, a marathon runner, and physique competitor. Who am I really and what do I really want … to enjoy my workouts, look nice and gain confidence, be healthy and encourage others to do the same.
- President of a major corporation, stay at home mom, and win the Nobel Peace Prize. What is realistic for me … a balance of work and family and flexibility to volunteer at my childrens’ school. Quite honestly I get overwhelmed when my children are scheduled for too many activities and they overlap so I am really not corporate president material. As far as the Nobel Peace Prize, I think I have a shot with this blog - ;)
So those were quite silly and unrealistic!
Friday, August 23, 2013
Lessons From The Trail
After dropping the kids off for the first day of the new school year, the husband and I headed to the Greenway for a run.
- The terrain is ever changing. If you fail to stay engaged in the present you just might trip.
- The journey is sweeter when shared with the ones you love.
- You never know what may block the path, but there is a way around it or through it.
- Beauty can be found in the most unexpected places.
- Sometimes you have to get a little dirty. (Thanks to many muddy spots I learned this well)
- The beginning is exciting; the end is welcomed, but it’s the journey on the trail that grows you.
Monday, August 12, 2013
More than Junk
Sure we have all been challenged by life, some of us even left in pieces, some dreams unfulfilled and some bad choices that linger, but the truth is that if the broken unattractive pieces are picked up and arranged by the right artist our junk can be a masterpiece. For me that artist is Jesus Christ. He has picked up the pieces and reminds me that I am not junk.
And as for my passionate little girl ... She now has a collection bag and will begin putting her findings together into a masterpiece.
Shante
Wednesday, July 24, 2013
Revelation of a Simple Girl
Wednesday, July 3, 2013
What's the Priority?
When I first had a thought of doing this post on priorities it was much different in my mind than it actually played out to be.
My initial thought was that I would look through my "work in progress" list, see which were functioning on a schedule of "process" (which was discussed in an earlier post), and then I would identify an order of importance of each and at that point my "priority" would be set. I could then write an informative "how to" post on priorities.
Surprise.... that is not how it happened. I read the following and it changed everything:
Psalm 42.11 NLT - Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again— my Savior and my God!
While chasing my "work in progress" list, there was a feeling of discouragement. I looked at my list and was unable to find the thing that topped everything else, the thing of upmost importantance and therefore I had no real priority. Not to mention that the size of the list and the size of the dreams that fueled the list seemed almost impossible to conquer. Then I read the verse mentioned above. I realized that my hope and joy had been shifted to the accomplishments that I could generate from a list and no matter how great those accomplishments are after a while they fade and leave the need for more. Then I realized something even greater, I had been unable to identify my upmost priority because it wasn't included on my "work in progress" list.
For me, when I read Psalm 42:11 it spoke to my discouragement and frustration and reminded me that my true hope doesn't come from how many items I accomplish on a checklist. It also reminded me that my real priority was to praise God through my life. I believe that in doing that all the works around me that are in line with my real priority will come to completion. Then I was reminded of this:
Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added to you. Matthew 6:33
So maybe my list still needs a little work, but there is no doubt that my top priority has been set.
Thursday, June 13, 2013
What Holds You Captive?
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Do You Have a Process?
Process and priority are two words that have been spoken a lot in my life lately. Each come with its own struggles for me. To grasp these words and get an idea of how they should govern my task list and lifestyle, I decided to take a moment to truly identify their meaning.
As defined by http://www.merriam-webster.com
Process - a series of actions or operations conducing to an end
Priority - something given or meriting attention before competing alternatives
Process stands out as something that will take time (a series, more than one) and action, but will have an end result. Furthermore the time and action poured into the process should directly impact the end result. So what I can conclude from this understanding is that if I do not take time and go through the series of actions then I have an incomplete process and a faulty product. Although super simple and possibly overused, it holds true: you can’t put walls on a house before the foundation is set or the house will not stand. Now patience is a trait that I struggle with greatly. I like to see things move at super speed and review a whole list of accomplishments, rather than have a list of things still in progress. What I have learned however is that at that pace I often lose my joy and have no memories to cherish because quite honestly everything is a blur. I know that I need to slow down and work the processes of life. I need to allow time to catch up with my actions and make sure that my actions are consistent over time.
What about you, is there a process that you have given time but no action, or maybe you threw in a lot of super speed action and have given it no time? I hope that you can find the peaceful balance of both the time and action that you may see a result worthy of its process.
I know for me there are many things on my ‘in progress” list. I am going to take some time to look at each. I will see if the current stage is because it is just part of the process or if I have overlooked the process by either lacking action or time. Once completed, I will move on to priority which will be discussed in the next blog post.
Will you join me? I know there are goals out there just waiting on you to go through the process.









